Heya!
So, I’m (m32) Swedish, have two kids and have only had relationships with people who speak fluent Swedish, where Swedish is their native tongue. I’ve dated an ex-russian, half Hungarian and so on. All dates have so far been with people who have kids
All of those relationships have felt good, like “Yeah, I guess this is what I need right now and I can see a future with this woman”. And then now, last Friday, everything I thought got turned on its head (correct use of expression?). I started to date a South-west Asian woman (f31), no kids of her own but doesn’t mind me having two. We had our first date, and we had it in 95% English even though she both speaks and understands Swedish. We then had our second date this Sunday and everything feels 10x better compared to any other date I’ve had so far, and I see her in my mind every time I close my eyes! I hear her voice strongly at the same time, without needing to focus – which I’ve had to do with previous relationships (Voice is very important to me when it comes to attraction).
So… What do I want with this post?
I think both to tell you all that strong feelings can manifest themselves for someone you didn’t expect, and…
…How do I keep my cool going forward? I’ve never had any problems with “the game” (not being too clingy etc) – but now I feel like calling her every second I’m not working or being with my kids – despite not really having anything to say 😅
I’m also kind of unsure about how to properly communicate my feelings in English, since it’s my second language, even though I’m comparatively, to other sweeds, good at English.
Any input? Any kind words or kick in my b*llsack to wake me up? 😅