I have always been avoidant of social situations after mutliple incidents of mistrust with friends,bullying etc and rough upbringing of abuse and neglect by parents. Due to this i have isolated myself way too much and been living alone from a quiet long time. Recently came to know i have schizoid personality disorder and severe depression,anxiety after consulting psychologist.
I do feel i cannot live alone for rest of my life as i am already nearing 30’s,currently i am doing financially well, i do feel i want a partner, not sure about wanting kids. I don’t know when i will be able to come to decent state of mental health or if even it is possible to overcome SPD.
Has anyone having SPD, ever able to overcome and had relationship/marriage and have family or facing difficulty. Please share experiences
tl;dr : Have SPD,depression, is it possible to overcome and have relationship/family. Please share experiences
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I am not a psychiatrist/psychologist, but I am a physician who has a lot of experience with people with a variety of serious mental health problems, but I’m also a dude who lives a decently isolated life, and struggle with dating.
There are a couple things, if you want a partner, you can find a partner. It will probably take a lot of hard work, therapy, because it ultimately does require trusting another person. That said, I might talk to another psychologist, especially if the SzPD diagnosis is fresh, because I’m not sure its correct.
Reading this post IS NOT a substitute for a formal psych eval, but a typical SzPD patient would not seek help, because they don’t see their avoidance as a problem. In addition, if you truly do want a partner, that would also be pretty atypical of an SzPD patient. I’d try and find someone who will focus more on anxiety/depresssion/ptsd, and work with them. It can be done.
I have SPD and am in a long-term relationship. Fyi, there is a sub, r/schizoid.
The only insight I can really share is that, as a weirdo, I found another weirdo to love. My partner isn’t schizoid, but he is just as odd as I am, and our idiosyncrasies line up pretty well.
I know someone who decided jointly with her his and that she would not have children because of depression and other disorders.
It is possible to concile you and your potential partner’s life expectations, affinities, compatibility.
Work on it, find someone it can work with. It might require some hard long work.
I wish you good luck and courage.