For instance, let’s say a man in his early 30s starts dating someone exclusively. If you like someone enough to start dating them at this age, where you probably have had dating experience and are probably getting to settling down age, are the odds pretty high of this probably being a lasting relationship?
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it really depends on BOTH people and where they are at in their lives with children, careers etc….but yes, the older you get the less game playing there is.
No, it’s still a dice roll.
Depends on the man. His looks, health, and resources.
A man’s motivation to ‘settle down’ increases inversely with his ability to attract women. As his looks fade, with no congruent increase in resources, then he would look to ‘settle down’ (cue musical chairs).
Or an external factor. eg. health. If he wants children, he will need to father them before he gets too old to take care of them properly. Early 30’s would be a good time for that, since the child will reach adulthood by the time the man is 50.
Age doesn’t dictate being ready to “settle down” IMO. Both could be ready to “settle down” but it still may not work out for several reasons (compatibility, emotional maturity, etc).
I’d say no, not exactly. If someone is theoretically ready to settle down, that still doesn’t guarantee their next relationship will work out for the long term. But I can see someone feeling the pressure potentially putting up with more things they don’t like to make it work or dropping a partner sooner so they don’t “waste time” so to speak.
Let’s put it this way: your odds are far, far better the older the man is.
In the twenties, the priority in many quarters seems to be partying and sex. The fraction of people seeking relationships is lower than it is in other age groups… probably the lowest of all, now that I think about it.
And yes, that person is a much better bet to be in the “settling down” zone once they hit 30, because that’s where a lot of people start playing for keeps.
Things like marriage and starting a family come to the fore, especially since a “now or never” dynamic starts to take over.
So yes, this is more likely to be someone looking for something more lasting. You might want to ask at some point to make sure this is the case.