Hi, this is real, and I am looking for others insight as to if they go or have gone through this. I am a 55-year-old male, sane, normal and decent looking. I have a healthy marriage and family. Several years ago, I would have never thought about such a thing, but now I cannot stop thinking about it. I know some are going to tell me to get therapy, but I already do, and I take medication. The issue still persists, and I cannot get away from it.
My wife and I have been together 25 years. I still think she is sexy and beautiful, and I love every moment I spend with her in and out of bed. She is my life. Within the last year or so, I have had this increasingly troubling thoughts of watching my wife in bed with some other man, men or a woman (or combination thereto). I do take a medication which really creates a super sensitive feeling in my private parts and makes my orgasms intensify to beyond reality. Once I get that feeling down there, I dont care what I say or express to my wife.
I have asked her to go away on a vacation and thought about setting up a situation where I would like to watch a younger man have intense oral/intercourse sex with my wife while I watched, then participated. I am not gay and dont have fantasy about male to male contact, but I incessantly crave to see this and experience this. I also would like to see her with a large endowed black man, and watch her with two african american males. I want to film, and I want to get her to have sex with me afterwards. I think she thinks I role play when we are in bed and tell her these fantasies, but I really want it to happen and I cannot rest until I think I get to experience this. Just so you know, I do not think she is game, and I am sure she thinks this is crazy. BUT….when we have sex and play together in bed and I tell her these things, she gets SOOOOO WET, it is indescribable. I know it turns her on so much. Fact is I do suffer from PTSD issues from war, and I do have ED. I need to take medications to include VIagra and Sildenafil. I have no problem achieving monumental orgasms too. My wife cannot orgasm through penetration, only clitoral stimulation. I ask her if I can set up a situation to have another man or woman lick her, while we romantically kiss each other (wife is a sensual kisser which intensifies and drives me crazy). I think because I have the ED issue that I feel it neccessary that she still experiences some good hard sex, which I cannot consistently provide to her. I can start off OK, but with some medical and physical conditions I usually cant keep an erection (full). I feel that she needs a good sexual escapade because I cannot do it like I used to.
We recently went to NC for a vacation, and I attempted to get a man from a casino to come up to have sex with my wife. I wanted to get him in the room while she was sleeping and just kind of flow into a little fun. I think I may have been able to do it, because after we left, I shared this thought. I know it must have turned her on, because we kept discussing and later, we pulled over to get it on, with which she was super wet and turned on. I would really like to watch her with two younger endowed males (race not a matter), or a guy and girl, or to watch her kiss and lick another girl. I watched my wife 25 years ago (drunk at a club) French kisses her friend Lisa, which was super-hot, but my wife said she was just drunk, and she does not have lesbian tendencies.
I would like to know if anyone else has this going on, and what have you done to correct your feelings/thoughts. I dont think it is normal, and I think something is definitely wrong with me for wanting to watch other men and women have sex with my wife. I just cannot stop thinking about it. We were in a casino last night and I was asking her to pick up a young guy at the bar area and let’s take him home. She just kept laughing at me. I think she actually wanted to but was afraid of the reality if we did. I too thought the same thing, but something tells me I am going to have to experience this even if it is to put me into my place.
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Can anyone help?
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It’s a really common fetish from my understanding, I think it’s called cuckolding.
It’s called cucking, it is a surprisingly common fetish and there’s nothing wrong with that. You should talk to your wife about it she might think it’s hot too, or she might be nervous, maybe try starting with a toy?
r/hotwifelifestyle
It’s called hotwifing (distinct from cuckholding which has more of a humiliation slant to it) — basically it’s a fetish where you fantasize about your wife being your personal porn star.
What I don’t understand is your wife seems to be onboard with it, when you bring it up she discusses it with you. So why not just ask and confirm she’s on board?
I’ve had the same fantasy of watching my wife as you do yours.
It’s a common fantasy that men have and from my experience the majority of the women would never participate. I’m often envious of those men married to a woman who do entertain the fantasy and even act out in it.
Hope yours is more than willing to try even once so you get to experience and enjoy watching or participating in it. Good luck!
Are you guys really overlooking that he invited a man to fuck his wife while she was asleep without her consent? That’s not cool. Grow the fuck up. If you want this fantasy, TALK to your wife directly. Don’t guess based on the fact she got wet. The idea of something is NOT the same as doing it. Women get turned on by pornography but won’t necessarily want to re-eanact it. Talk to her!!!! This is very easy to set up on Tinder.