M22 one of my friends has been on and off flirted and texting a girl we know. He has no interest in dating her only wants to hookup with her but nothing has ever really ever happened between them. Last night I went to our college dance bar without my friend. I ran into the girl and we were both really drunk. She was very insistent on me dancing with her and throughout the night whenever I backed away from her she would grab me and bring me back to her. We danced and grinded all night. We made out multiple times throughout the night. I don’t know if I should tell my friend what happened and do you think I was in the wrong?

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  2. Nah, he doesn’t sees her as a romantic partner, so what is the harm?

    I’d recommend you don’t tell him anything yet, just wait a little to see how things play of, and if you see that the best course of action is telling him, go for it.

  3. I mean your friend has 0 intention of dating her so I don’t see why there would be a problem

  4. There’s no legally binding shit but you’re low key a douche for that. I wouldn’t wanna be your friend

  5. I think you should tell him, BUT I don’t think you are in the wrong if he just wanted to hookup with her. If they were flirting/dating with the intention of being in a relationship then it would be a dick move towards your friend though.

  6. He’s interested in FUCKING HER not in a relationship so no you don’t owe him any loyalty whatsoever. He’s not entitled to call dibs on every woman he wants to stick his dick in. There are no emotions or feelings here, just his lust. I’m sure he can find someone else to fuck. Do what you want.

  8. She’s a person, not property that one of you can lay claim to. She decides who she wants to be with/what she wants to do with either of you. Of course, you both also have a say in what you have with her. Clearly she wasn’t that interested in your friend otherwise something might have happened. He can’t just claim her in the hopes something might happen. She’s interested in you, apparently you’re interested in her too. Why should your friend decide what you two are allowed to do?

  9. If he didn’t want to date her then it’s not as bad, but man… you could have gone for literally any other girl

    Then again if this dude is not a close friend, just go about your own business i suppose

  10. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. I mean he doesn’t want anything serious with her anyways. Plus, you and her were drunk, had fun dancing and made out. It’s fine

  11. I don’t think the Bro Code prohibits this.

    If they were exes or dating it would definitely be a violation. But if he’s just trying to smash and has had, however long of a head start without making it happen, that’s not on you.

    People aren’t necessarily entitled to dibs, but if he saw her first, the gentlemanly thing to do is give him a fair first shot. If he’s been talking to her for more than like a week and hasn’t managed to meet up with her (meanwhile she’s going out and grinding on other dudes) then it would seem to me she’s not into him. So really no harm, no foul. But if he had been getting somewhere with her that would have been shitty.

  12. The Bro Code is not a real thing, in the real word people like each other and things happen.

    Your friend either made his move and got rejected or didn’t cause he thought he was gonna get rejected. There’s is no such thing as dibs.

  17. It’s not wrong at all. They haven’t *done anything*. Just because he *wants* to bang her doesn’t mean she’s suddenly off limits to all his friends. You don’t get to call dibs on women. You have done nothing wrong.

  20. Communication is as important in friendship as it is in a relationship.

    I have been in a similar scenario, albeit with women we wanted to date, not just hookup.

    I had a conversation with my friend telling him candidly I won’t go for it if his feelings were strong. He gave me the go-ahead,.as I gave to him, and I wound up marrying this girl. Anywho, that friendship is still a thing and my marriage is not. I say this to hopefully drive the point that your friends are more likely to last then your relationships. Honor your friend with the truth and work it out if need be. It doesn’t sound like feelings are involved, so it likely isn’t a big deal.

  21. It’s all women here saying you weren’t in the wrong here, but I’m just gonna say dude, bros before hoes

  22. I think you should talk to your mate about it. Tell him you’re into her as well and see if the two of you can agree to let her decide who she wants to go with.

    I had a similar situation with one of my best friends. We both asked out the same girl and only realised when I asked him for dating advice. We agreed we both go on our separate dates and let her choose who she wants to see again. No hard feeling against each other and no treating her as some kind of trophy to be won.

    The girl we both asked out told both of us that she also had a date with the other, since she felt bad going on date with a guy’s best friend. I told her that we spoke to each other, cleared everything and that we would let her choose who she wants to continue with. It put her at ease as well both me and my friend.

  24. Pissed doesn’t even begin to describe how your friend is going to feel towards you wether he had no intentions of anything with her you still c**k blocked him people can take this extremely personally

  25. I mean, I wouldn’t have done what you did, so unless you want to ruin your friendship, I’d keep it to myself. If you don’t, definitely don’t try to make it sound like you weren’t a willing participant like you did here.

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