I(F) have always had a busy mind. One thought leading to the next and soon I’m on a topic mentally that i don’t even know what I was originally thinking about anymore.
For the last two years, I’ve been dating my boyfriend (let’s call him A). We were each other’s firsts for everything (we’re a little bit of late bloomers), and the relationship is still going strong.
However, while A is fairly easy to please, I haven’t been able to finish except for maybe three times. We talked about it a lot, even getting to the point of me showing him how I myself do it. But to no avail. He’s doing everything right, and it’s really frustrating not being able to finish when he is doing something. Especially because I can do it myself with no problem.
Last night, A mentioned that maybe I was thinking too much about it. And while at first that was true, because him doing everything he can took time and I was just laying there getting uncomfortable, I am not aware of being in my thoughts anymore.
We looked stuff up online and found out it’s pretty common for women not to easily orgasm. But we haven’t found a solution. So I’m asking reddit for advice. Is there a way I can try to approach this? Is this some deep rooting fear of giving up control? And how do I get more relaxed?