Little story stime:
I (M27) think I have a wrong focus on dating girls and have no idea if I can find someone this way. Or if I can change my way or how I could possibly try to.
A little bit about myself: I have a full time, wel paying job but it is in 2 shifts, morning (6-14) and afternoon (14-22) shift switching every week. Besides that I do a lot of sports (mostly individual) I like and have my goals set in these sports and in my job. I have a good social circle with friends who I see almost every weekend and keep in touch trough the week. I go on holidays regularly alone or with friends.
I don’t date a lot because I spend a lot of time doing sports or playing guitar. I dated 2 girls last year and they both ended with “you deserve better than me”. I know 2 is not a lot to refer on but because of my schedule I can’t do more dates at the same time.. so I focus on the 1 I have at that moment. They know I only date them because I’m honest about that upfront. My dates usually go for a month or 2 before ending..
I’m happy about my life but sometimes it feels like that 1 person to share this with is missing. I know my life goals and what I want in the future but it seems impossible nowadays with all the options everyone has, all the dating apps seems to ruin dating?
I might still live in a movie in my head but just feel like I’m doing something wrong.
3 comments
I feel that bro. Keeping up on the grind to support my kids and hobbies but cannot find a wife. Definitely tough being alone sometimes.
Try finding omeone who is your equal (on the same level of interest in the sports activities you enjoy. I’m assuming these something like running, cycling, and such. It’s hard on a partner who just doesn’t get that same enjoyment, so find someone who does. It shouldn’t be too hard if you’re competing as well, and this will also allow you to assess their fitness level and start on an even keel together.
I’m wondering if some of your difficulty is your schedule. Not suggesting that you make major life changes, but it sounds like you don’t have a ton of time available for these women. Please don’t take that as a criticism, because it’s not. It sounds like the ways you’re spending your time is very fulfilling, and that’s super important. Unfortunately though, it’s going to limit your dating pool somewhat. I’m sure there are women who won’t be put off by your schedule, but it might take you longer to find them. 😕