I have a friend who likes outgoing people, we’ve had a couple arguments in the past so i’m anxious when talking to him because i’m trying to get us to be friends again like before.
I’m not naturally a shy person. I am loud in public, i am funny, & i speak my mind. I think these are very admirable traits and it bugs me once i start to stop acting like myself. How can i stop being so quiet around new people or people who don’t like me.
i’m not sure if this part is allowed in this sub but I’d also like to know how i can grow on my friend & convince him i’m not shy.
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There shouldn’t be a need to try and impress or that you have to act a certain way to maintain their interest in you. It’s a pretty shaky foundation for a friendship if you feel that you have to convince someone that you’re likable. You will forever be worrying about whether you’re acting in the right way.
Do you recall what the arguments were about? If there was some tension resulting from that, you may just need time for things to cool down. Understand that the friendship may not ever return to how it was before. Which is okay! People grow apart.
In my experience if you are anxious around someone who is supposed to be a friend, you don’t feel good about yourself around them, they aren’t warm and inviting to you. Don’t force it and move on.