31F. Please don’t make the group pic (or the sunglasses or the mask pic) first. I think ideally your first picture would be of just you, with a clear view of your face and eyes.
I think the one single piece of advice I want to give to SO many men on dating apps– and to you as well, here — your first picture should never leave someone wondering which person’s profile they’re looking at.
Your first picture should always be of just yourself, or if there’s anyone else in it, it needs to be very obvious who you are.
I think your first picture should always be a picture where there is no one else in the picture, Ideally one that shows your face without sunglasses. Ideally a picture like the one you have with sunglasses but without wearing sunglasses…
The first photo is the only one where you are looking directly at the camera and your face is visible without sunglasses (maybe also the third one “Me in the wild,” but that’s out of focus). So it’s the “best” in the sense of quality, but it’s the “worst” in terms of women knowing which guy you are. If that is you in photo #6, you look like a completely different person than the person in all of the other photos.
The bad news is that you need all new photos, but the good news is that if you get them you’ll stand out compared to the competition because almost all men have profiles like yours.
Honestly I can’t tell what you look like from these photos.
I would get rid of that picture of you in the lake with that girl. (Or crop her out) Maybe she’s just a friend, but it looks like she might be your ex. Also as already mentioned, you look completely different in that last picture. Like people could think all your other pictures are way older because of it.
Hey, so it is nice that you selected a number of different photos and especially a small video. But yeah, i agree with the rest that the first photo should be of just you and clearly shows your face. Also I would drop the photo with the girl, it is a bit weird that she is larger in the pic than you.
That aside when i am looking at profiles I try to figure out 1) what dating this person would look like and 2) what the person is looking for. I don’t really get either from your profile. What would we be doing on a date or in the weekend?
Don’t use a group photo for the first pic.
And i know you were only asking about pics, but I’m going to throw this here anyway- unless you’re still riding your bike to the library to trade yugioh cards, leave out middle school antics. That doesn’t tell me anything about who you are as a 30something adult.
You are a good looking guy, but your profile is not good. The first photo should be of you alone and not you with a bunch of friends where it’s impossible for a person on the app to figure out which one of the people in the photo is you. If you are looking for a relationship get rid of the photo with another woman even if you guys are just friends.
No fish pic, no shirtless gym mirror pic? Do you even know how to OLD?
Can’t give order advice, because honestly I don’t know. I will say the pic with you in the tube with the woman comes off as odd to me. That’s me, and I don’t use apps.
In the first pic I can’t tell who you are and a lot of people will swipe left because of that alone. You are cuter than your friend but I assumed you were him (I always assume it’s the least-cute one, unfortunately.) The last picture you somehow look unrecognizable from all the others so I would get rid of that one because now i’m not sure which you look like.
Blatant Asian fetishizer lmfao
Absolutely ditch the group photo as the first pic, as others have said, and would strongly consider getting rid of the one with the woman in the swimsuit, as most people will be wondering if she’s an ex. But also I would rework these prompts tbh. I get from the Persona pic and the “I go crazy for” section that you’re a bit of a weeb. For me, that would be a plus, but there’s just too much of it. I like the guitar vid because it balances that out. What else do you like to do? What qualities do you like or admire in a partner? I’d swap out the last 2 prompts with something like that.
I say this as an Asian woman – you clearly have an Asian fetish or a strong preference for Asian women. Your prompts all reference Asian culture in at least one way, including Chinese horoscopes. The photo of you with the Asian woman where she is clearly attractive and not related to you – it’s like you’re posting up a billboard saying “this is what I’m looking for”. The only Asian chicks you’re going to get to swipe right on you are the ones ok dating someone who is probably primarily attracted to their race/culture. If that’s ok with you, keep doing what you’re doing. I’ve dated white guys but I would swipe left on you in a heartbeat.
Your photos should be clearer, and try to make the first one of just you! It’s cool to add your prompts but the yugioh is from middle school.. you’re 35 now, maybe come up with something more recent. Best wishes!
Are these photos really old? did you take them with a toaster? the random blue tinge and blur is of-putting.
It would be better to take new pictures that look current rather than old pics where you look a decade younger
In your first pic, the friend in green is better looking and better dressed than you (which women place a high level of importance on – which is dumb, but that’s how it is).
This subconsciously leaves the women disappointed when they find out you aren’t as attractive. I’d remove that pic.
I think you need some new pictures. A lot of these have multiple people, which can be confusing, Also, from what I am seeing…I have a feeling you are better looking than these pictures are portraying. The first photo is not a flattering photo of you (compared to the other pictures) and it also is a group of people.
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31F. Please don’t make the group pic (or the sunglasses or the mask pic) first. I think ideally your first picture would be of just you, with a clear view of your face and eyes.
I think the one single piece of advice I want to give to SO many men on dating apps– and to you as well, here — your first picture should never leave someone wondering which person’s profile they’re looking at.
Your first picture should always be of just yourself, or if there’s anyone else in it, it needs to be very obvious who you are.
I think your first picture should always be a picture where there is no one else in the picture, Ideally one that shows your face without sunglasses. Ideally a picture like the one you have with sunglasses but without wearing sunglasses…
The first photo is the only one where you are looking directly at the camera and your face is visible without sunglasses (maybe also the third one “Me in the wild,” but that’s out of focus). So it’s the “best” in the sense of quality, but it’s the “worst” in terms of women knowing which guy you are. If that is you in photo #6, you look like a completely different person than the person in all of the other photos.
The bad news is that you need all new photos, but the good news is that if you get them you’ll stand out compared to the competition because almost all men have profiles like yours.
Honestly I can’t tell what you look like from these photos.
I would get rid of that picture of you in the lake with that girl. (Or crop her out) Maybe she’s just a friend, but it looks like she might be your ex. Also as already mentioned, you look completely different in that last picture. Like people could think all your other pictures are way older because of it.
Hey, so it is nice that you selected a number of different photos and especially a small video. But yeah, i agree with the rest that the first photo should be of just you and clearly shows your face. Also I would drop the photo with the girl, it is a bit weird that she is larger in the pic than you.
That aside when i am looking at profiles I try to figure out 1) what dating this person would look like and 2) what the person is looking for. I don’t really get either from your profile. What would we be doing on a date or in the weekend?
Don’t use a group photo for the first pic.
And i know you were only asking about pics, but I’m going to throw this here anyway- unless you’re still riding your bike to the library to trade yugioh cards, leave out middle school antics. That doesn’t tell me anything about who you are as a 30something adult.
You are a good looking guy, but your profile is not good. The first photo should be of you alone and not you with a bunch of friends where it’s impossible for a person on the app to figure out which one of the people in the photo is you.
If you are looking for a relationship get rid of the photo with another woman even if you guys are just friends.
No fish pic, no shirtless gym mirror pic? Do you even know how to OLD?
Can’t give order advice, because honestly I don’t know. I will say the pic with you in the tube with the woman comes off as odd to me. That’s me, and I don’t use apps.
In the first pic I can’t tell who you are and a lot of people will swipe left because of that alone. You are cuter than your friend but I assumed you were him (I always assume it’s the least-cute one, unfortunately.) The last picture you somehow look unrecognizable from all the others so I would get rid of that one because now i’m not sure which you look like.
Blatant Asian fetishizer lmfao
Absolutely ditch the group photo as the first pic, as others have said, and would strongly consider getting rid of the one with the woman in the swimsuit, as most people will be wondering if she’s an ex. But also I would rework these prompts tbh. I get from the Persona pic and the “I go crazy for” section that you’re a bit of a weeb. For me, that would be a plus, but there’s just too much of it. I like the guitar vid because it balances that out. What else do you like to do? What qualities do you like or admire in a partner? I’d swap out the last 2 prompts with something like that.
I say this as an Asian woman – you clearly have an Asian fetish or a strong preference for Asian women. Your prompts all reference Asian culture in at least one way, including Chinese horoscopes. The photo of you with the Asian woman where she is clearly attractive and not related to you – it’s like you’re posting up a billboard saying “this is what I’m looking for”. The only Asian chicks you’re going to get to swipe right on you are the ones ok dating someone who is probably primarily attracted to their race/culture. If that’s ok with you, keep doing what you’re doing. I’ve dated white guys but I would swipe left on you in a heartbeat.
Your photos should be clearer, and try to make the first one of just you! It’s cool to add your prompts but the yugioh is from middle school.. you’re 35 now, maybe come up with something more recent. Best wishes!
Are these photos really old? did you take them with a toaster?
the random blue tinge and blur is of-putting.
It would be better to take new pictures that look current rather than old pics where you look a decade younger
In your first pic, the friend in green is better looking and better dressed than you (which women place a high level of importance on – which is dumb, but that’s how it is).
This subconsciously leaves the women disappointed when they find out you aren’t as attractive. I’d remove that pic.
I think you need some new pictures. A lot of these have multiple people, which can be confusing, Also, from what I am seeing…I have a feeling you are better looking than these pictures are portraying. The first photo is not a flattering photo of you (compared to the other pictures) and it also is a group of people.