I need immediate advice. I just broke up with my gf of two years and idk how to feel how do you get over it
Me 17(m) and my gf 18(f)has been together for two years she has my virginity and I had hers. Things weren’t always bad my parents were rude then talk down to her but we got through it. They did stop us from seeing each other but we got through it. But things became unbearable for her my family in general was hurtful and disrespectful I don’t blame her for being upset. Yesterday she came over and got into an argument with my mom and my mom ask her to leave and she didn’t leave and when my mom threatened to call the police she said call them because she was upset and didn’t care. I know she was wrong but she has a reason to be upset. Here are some red flags
She does lie, she is possessive saying things such as “I just want him” “I wanna get married at 20” “ “I will do whatever it takes to get him” she is spoiled her parents give her whatever she wants when ever and she doesn’t like to be told no. She has changed she has been patient she has been showing improvement. For an example she kept calm when everything’s was going on and she kept her composer she takes the answer no better depending on the situation. She listens to me sometimes but you know progress was made. She did disrespect me sometimes
Here are some green flags
She considered my feelings she showed me love and showed me what were the wrong things my parents were doing. She also showed me how to be patient kind and loving she showed me how to communicate.she is also loving kind considers others and she is really soft and gentle. She is selfish at times but can it fixed? She just text me saying “we are staying together” but like I know she passive but there are many good things to should I leave or should I stay idk what to do
Tldr: I broke up with my gf but idk if is the right thing to do I’m there are some fork things and some bad things but I am not entirely sure
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You are both young being disrespectful to your parents is just asking for trouble it sounds like you dodged the bullet my friend look at the red flags then look at the green flags again
You’re young and you’re probably going to have many relationships in your life. Don’t settle for someone possessive, manipulative and argumentative. You can’t just “fix” people, they have to want to change and show you that they’re capable of change.