I’m not here to make blame or to prove that I’m right or I’m wrong…I’m just here for advice…my girlfriend has a plan where she wants to be settled down and married at 24-25 and have a kid before she’s 30…and I just don’t know if I fit in that plan…I had hoped to travel and find a place where I could work at a job I enjoy in a place I love…I just don’t know what to do …please help me
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Its very black and white here.
You cant lead someone on knowing your life goals and aspirations don’t line even remotely up with theirs.
You’re only 20. If you all’s timelines don’t match then it’s perfectly fine to separate. Live the life you want to or you’ll regret it.
When she tell you of her plans, you tell her about yours. Then you discuss how compatible they are. If both of you feel strongly about your plans, then the relationship might not last. Sometimes love is not enough to make a relationship work, sadly. Being scared of the outcome of the conversation is not a good reason to keep quiet and say nothing. That just postpones the problem and make you both invest in a relationship that would never work out in the end, if you don’t want the same things.