Just wondering how other people make that decision, I feel kind of conflicted about this. I feel like often times, I can already get a good idea of whether or not I would actually really like someone irl after just a few messages back and forth. However, I also know a lot of people aren’t super comfortable texting strangers, and would probably come off a little differently to me face-to-face. I also hate whenever a dating app match turns into a “pen pal” and we message back and forth for weeks or even months without actually meeting up. I don’t want to waste my time on a first date with no chemistry, but I also don’t want to waste my time messaging forever.
How do you decide if/how soon to meet up with someone you met through an app or website?
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I got it posted in my bio that I will be asking for dates. I’ll ask about 3-5 messages in. If she aint interested she will ghost or unmatch. If she is, she will ask me to wait or agree to the date the following weekend.
Good question, I’ve wondered the same. I’m ok with several messages and meeting within 7 days or sooner. It all depends on the person and their schedule. If there is even the slightest connection that we both feel it usually happens naturally. If the messaging is hot or miss or days between them I just keep it moving.