Hello reddit. So I’m having a bit of an issue in my current relationship. I (24f) and my boyfriend(25m) have been dating for 17 months. He’s Christian, but no out loud about it. Like no church, or studying the Bible, has a mouth like a sailer, vulgar etc. He’s waiting till marriage for vaginal sex. However, he is one of those people that like to cheat with anal instead. Well, it always has felt like a way around the no sex rule.
Anyway, I had already had vaginal sex before meeting him. However, I had a hormonal balance that made me less sensitive in that area, so it was never all that pleasurable. So I didn’t mind the no vaginal penetration. We’ve been doing anal since about 3 months in, and while I enjoy it mostly, it’s really for his pleasure. He prefers my on top, so I’m doing all the work. I’m just left to clean myself up afterwards. I’d say, about 90% of the time I don’t finish. This has made me not very enthusiastic about sex. He also likes receiving oral and is always asking, and doesn’t really like giving. Again, I just do all the work and clean up afterwards.
So reddit, any thoughts on this situation and what I can say to him?
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He either gives the same (or similar) amount for oral or he doesn’t get any. Boundaries can be excellent motivators. As a male giver, it pisses me off to hear another person on this platform, with a partner who doesn’t help them finish properly. He needs to be better because it’s just going to get more and more depressing for you. All the best, OP