We have established that at the moment we would pay 50/50 for rent. All of the sudden he (26M) wants to leave his job for another one that has does not have the qualifications for. He claims he’s working towards them but every time I(25F) go into the office, he’s playing video games.
I am trying to go back to school and his lack of understanding is pissing me off. At the moment I can only make my half of rent, if he leaves his job, I can’t cover for him.
I’ve tried to talk to him about it but I get the same answer “I’m working on it”. I’m just so fucking pissed off about his nonchalant way of dealing with the situation. Am I being crazy?
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No you’re not being crazy
You’re not crazy. When rent is due, he as your husband/partner SHOULD be concerned and have his half of the rent as you all have established. Imo when your partner is coming off as nonchalant, then its not considered nagging when real life important things need to be addressed.
You’re cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs but not crazy
Basically he isn’t showing effort so how can you trust he isn’t setting himself up. Just ask him to show you what he has done to be qualified for the new job… Or is he just wanting to quit his current job and stream games online?
Definitely not crazy but draw the line at his complacency. Call him on his bluff and if he makes everything out to be your fault, then I’d consider separation. I’d also inform your landlord that you have your half of the rent if it really boils down to it.
Your husband needs to wake up and realize a marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. He better be worried about not being able to pay rent/bills. You are not his maid/ATM/secretary, you’re his WIFE.
“When you say you’re working on it, what do you mean specifically?”
I bet what he means is that he’s bored of his job and wants to play video games instead, and has zero motivation to get those credentials.