Sex has become so painful with the IUD, that my (24F) drive is much lower than it used to. I’m thinking of getting it removed and moving on to another method. I just want to see people’s reason for their preferred method. TBH there should be more birth control methods for men and/or better methods for women, but that’s another topic 🤷‍♀️

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  1. As a man I definitely agree that there should be more birth control options that men can take. I definitely wish that I was able to insure that was not fertile before sleeping with a partner.

  2. Well uh oh I’m switching to an IUD soon 😳 But I’ve been on the nexplanon implant for the past 4 years and it’s been NEARLY perfect, only reason I’m switching is because I’ve been having long irregular periods since June, but I do think it’s worth trying it out! I’ve had no other issues with it at all and if the IUD doesn’t work I’ll probably just go back to nexplanon.

    Mind if I ask what kind of IUD you have? I’m getting mirena

  3. My boyfriend wears a condom and pulls out, I don’t really use birth control bc I’m too scared

  4. i prefer rubber, it protects me from sexuals sickness and kids, i dont care how long im in interaction with the woman

  5. I use depo provera shot every 3 months. I was scared at first just because I get terrible hormonal migraines and didn’t want to make it worse but other than constantly feeling like I’m on my period as far as my emotions go it’s been okay. I think the shot actually helps my migraines bc I haven’t had one since I started but how it fucks with my mental health really sucks. Light/no periods, lowers sexual drive (but no pain during sex), makes it harder for my vagina to lubricate itself, and slight weight gain have been my only side effects so far. If your iud is causing you so much pain it’s making you adverse to sex it’s time to come out. Hopefully you find something that works better for you.

  7. I really love my mirena, you should talk to your Dr and see if maybe you can have it re-placed? It might be hanging out in a weird place causing you trouble. It’s pretty easy to figure out in an office visit. Real quick belly ultrasound usually. Sometimes they’ll want to use the internal wand ultrasound to confirm. But definitely make an appointment! Sex shouldn’t be hurting you with it and if it is, that’s usually a sign it’s not where it should be.

  8. I was on the depo and my libido completely disappeared. I switched to the patch and my libido is better but it might just be the shot wearing off. I only have to change the patch once a week so no having to remember to take pills daily. Also I can skip my period.

  11. I just got my hormonal IUD out. It made me really depressed.

    Condoms! Condoms are good.

  12. Someone stop me if I’m wrong, but sex shouldn’t be becoming *more* painful over time. Have your gynecologist make sure everything looks right with the IUD.

  13. Hey 🙂 i feel like this birth control is not known enough but i have the birth control implant. It’s a little implant on the arm that releases hormones and it can last 3 years or more depending on the type (i think there are 2?). It is also the most effective at 99.99% and at least for me it didn’t affect my sex drive at all. It is super convenient. The only side effect I had is that i almost completely lost my period. I got a lot of spotting my first months and now that I’m close to the last year I’m starting to get some period blood like once every 3 months maybe. And it completely got rid of period cramps too 🙂 I’m not sure about the price tho but i got it for free in my country. You can read more about it here https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/birth-control-implant-nexplanon

  14. I would recommend checking out FAM/NFP if you don’t want to use condoms.

    FAM/NFP plus condoms as a backup is my favorite method. It puts me in touch with my body, and on a day to day basis, I know where I am in my cycle. I can pinpoint to the day when I ovulate and can predict my periods to the day because of it. It is not just a birth control method, it is a lifestyle, and gives you a whole new level of self awareness that you never knew existed. It’s a life-changing method and can also come in handy by for if/when you do want to conceive someday

    The method taught in “taking charge of your fertility”, is what I use. I would definitely get that book and start charting (even if you end up not relying on it for birth control). There are just so many benefits to charting.

    Also this is NOT the rhythm method. The book busts that misconception right away, but I have to say it because so many people write off the method because of misinformation.

  15. Copper IUDs don’t lower your sex drive because they have no hormones. They should not, however, be painful. It’s definitely a reason to see a doctor.

  16. Nuvaring. Semi-long term so I don’t have to think about it every day, but I get to control it instead of needing a doctor to put it in/take it out. So far I haven’t really had any side effects.

  18. I hated iud! Soo much pain I didn’t want to have sex. I begged to have it removed at 6 months. Was on low dose pill for many yrs but dr wont give me estrogen anymore due to health condition. I have nexplanon now. Not horrible. Hurt putting in, itchy sometimes, but overall ok. It’s my last option really. Tried many kinds.

  19. I’m on my mirena coil it’s great! No worries for 5 years, check the strings once a month, barely any periods. I do find my hormones go a bit crazy once a month but I suffer from PPD

  20. Any kind of hormonal BC tanks my libido so I’m actually looking forward to installing a copper IUD. It’s condoms now, but after years of doing it raw it’s such a hassle.

    If the copper IUD won’t work for me I’d have to have a deep consultation with a specialist. Freezing my eggs while I’m sill young and having my tubes tied starts becoming more and more appealing to me as I go, so I’d have the chance in IVF later in life.

  21. I’ve been on the pill for over 20 years. It’s always been very good to me, but I know it messes with other women terribly. I moved to the three monthly pill about 10 years ago and that one is even better. Eventually my period completely disappeared. (But not all brands are made equally)

  23. I normally use the implant, it’s been great for me personally. I can’t take pills due to intestinal failure (they don’t work) so chose the implant and loved it. I’ve had them back to back for a while and have been on hormonal BC since Feb 2014 and started having irregular bleeding so I’m having 3-6 months off the hormones and just using condoms. I would recommend the implant though, no real side effects that I noticed

  24. IUD’s should definitely not be painful more than a few days after they’ve been inserted! Have they checked whether it’s in the right place? I had to have an ultrasound six weeks after my placement to make sure everything was okay.

  26. If the iud is making sex painful, there’s a good chance that it’s placed wrong. I had my first Paragard for 10 years before the strings got caucht on my diva cup and pulled it a bit. After that sex was painful in most positions. After getting it replaced, the pain is gone and i no longer feel it.

  28. You should not be having pain with an IUD. That is not normal. You absolutely need to see a doctor. It could be placed incorrectly or have migrated.

  29. I currently have a hormonal IUD (I think Mirena?) And I definitely prefer it over the pill, which I previously took.

    While I don’t necessarily have a lower desire for sex, I find that I struggle with getting wet naturally. This doesn’t bother me too much though since a little store bought lube solved the problem easily.

    What I do prefer about the IUD is that it’s low maintenance: get it in, go for a checkup, get it taken out X years later. I also stopped getting my period once I got it out in, so I’ve saved a fortune on tampons the last few years!

    With the pill I personally did not experience any side effects, but it was just a large inconvenience to take every single day.

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