Why do you think that the lack of drama in a relationship can be interpreted as boredom or sometimes a lack of chemistry ?

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1. I think if you are used to drama/toxic/chaos then over time you get comfortable with it not because you enjoy it but because it’s familiar and impacts you in so many negative ways and has long term effects so when you are finally with someone and there is a lack of drama it’s like having to learn to walk all over again and you have to change how you’ve been operating and be open to what it’s like to just feel settled and that settled and calm is okay and can be the norm and doesn’t have to mean the other shoe is going to drop soon.
   I had a hard fast lesson in this and I’m so grateful to be able to have a drama free relationship now bc it feels so much better.
   Idk that just my experience though!

2. I can only assume since drama in a relationship makes me anxious and uncomfortable, but I’d imagine some people are used to drama and find excitement in the uncertainty and discomfort that brings.

   They don’t know what it’s like to feel settled and comfortable so they view that as disinterest.

3. Because the people who “thrive on drama” believe and experience it to be so.

4. Only immature people have that mentality not people with a healthy mindset and healthy relationships.

5. Neither. Drama free relationship = you hit jackpot!
   Mature people have drama free relationships.

6. never heard of someone being bored of a relationship that’s not toxic

7. I’ve always wanted a calm and peaceful relationship, but I wasn’t prepared for one. My current boyfriend is my first, and at 26, I’ve seen most of my friends go through rough relationships as we navigated high school and college. So that, and the fact that I was raised in a tumultuous and anxiety-inducing household, means my brain and body are used to being on high alert at all times. But, I’ve realized that in order to enjoy the peace of my relationship, I have to embrace it. My brain will always want me to be ready for the next threat, and I have to tell it to kindly shut up 🙂

8. I don’t think that.

9. We’re used to chaos, so peace feels boring.

10. Because those people are used to drama. That’s what they always associated with love. So if that’s not there, it doesn’t feel right, it’s a new type of situation that they might feel uncomfortable with.