How do you deal with people that just talk about themselves? They are always one upping, no matter what you say about yourself. They always want to be right! They are horrible listeners, yet they want everyone to listen to them. Being around them makes me feel like I am not interesting since I am always listening, nodding or occasionally laughing. If I withdraw, they notice it and ask if I am okay. Before you say it, I can’t completely ignore them. They are family.
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Either explain how you feel to them, or get away from them.
I know people like this. I have trouble dealing with it too, probably most people do.
Sometimes I accept they’re not going to change. I either let them gas out (eventually) or without being rude I seem so disinterested they get the hint. However if they are so self involved and are horrible listeners I simply give them nothing to listen to…fuck it because they’re on another planet in a giant fucking bubble! They can’t hear shit!
Don’t let anyone make you feel worthless or anything otherwise, life is to short for that shit.
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You avoid them. If they’re around you, pretend to be busy. Mobile phones make it easy to pretend.
Stop being friends with them. Knew a girl in high school who did this, after we graduated she got weirdly close to my best friend’s bf while she was at basic and when the friend returned we all cut off the girl cause it was too much drama. One of our friends recently hung out with her again, she just did the same shit. If they stop having anyone to talk to, maybe they’ll realize their bad at socializing?
You deject.
Dealt with a lot of these on Discord lately, and I tried to point out that they were trying to complicate the problem. Either way it just turned into a subconscious battle of who had the last word.
You also have to swallow your pride I guess, and just let them have the last word. If they’re talking a lot of incessant superfluous stuff just let them. They’re disagreeable because they haven’t learned that you have to moderate yourself.
I work in live music and video production. Most people I deal with day to day are like this.
Best answer I’ve found so far is, nod, smile, have somewhere else to be/something else to do, then exit ASAP. Go to the fucking bathroom for 5 minutes if you must; they’ll find another victim.
Whatever you do, don’t try to show them up or one-up them yourself thinking you’ll shut them up out of shock.
If you’re the only one around, ask them for money. That usually shuts useless people up real quick. Unless they accept the money offer, then take it 😎