What signs have you ignored while dating, which is a problem after marriage?

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1. Mommy still bought him his clothes

2. Little white lies.

   Turned out he also told huge lies as well.

3. Anxiety about sex that he never went to therapy for

4. He’s only on that PC, gaming and all. All. The. Fu**ing. Time. He is initiative when I speak, indeed, and I got used to it in a while (I’m a PC player as well, mostly), but damn, I had to SCREAM a few times for help (mind you, I do most of the things myself and when I ask for help, I really really need it). I didn’t know it would bother me, until after a while. I was 18 when we met, dated only 1 guy before him, so I didn’t really know better. Besides that, he’s great though. Loving husband and I can always rely on him when it’s for something serious.

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6. – Blaming other people for money issues
   – Not paying taxes
   – Living outside their means/living paycheck to paycheck
   – The only friends they have are people they’ve been intimate with
   – If all their friends are druggies, so are they.
   – If they admit to cheating on previous partners, they will probably cheat again
   – If their pet dog is neurotic/untrained
   – Not wanting to fix personal problems
   – Poor hygiene could be due to mental illness

7. The occasional bad hygiene, a bit of an obsession with Nazi history.

8. 1) When he was proud of not ever doing anything he didn’t want to. Turns out he’s right, he won’t. Which included changing absolutely anything in his life when the children arrived.
   2) the holes in the walls. Speaks for itself.

9. Extreme jealousy. I dated some who watched my house, tried to trace my calls, let me see no one but him, constant arguments, was late, insulted me.