Men who wouldn’t support your partner if she decided having plastic surgery, why?

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1. She wouldn’t be the same to me if she got plastic surgery. I’m single but I know I want to get married and have a family of my own one day. I know if she were to get plastic surgery she wouldn’t be the same woman to me. She wouldn’t be the same woman I fell in love with, she wouldn’t be the same woman who I raised my kids with, and she wouldn’t be the same woman to me at all.

2. I can’t get behind putting your life at risk for an unnecessary procedure. Plus, if we are together, I already like the way you look.

3. Unless there was a horrible accident that causes you to need it I would rather her not change herself to fit someone else’s image. I like her for her, not who she pretends to be. It can also be very expensive and I would rather us spend that money on something else we can both enjoy. But if it’s like a minor scar removal that really bothers her and it’s not super expensive I don’t care.

4. If it was say plastic surgery to fix up burn wounds, I’m chill. But if a woman I was dating wanted it just because I’d bow out. As I got with her for her current beauty and not what she wants to change into. It’s important to have attraction between couple, just not the most important thing to me.

5. Because it would only make her look worst. She’s peak hot

6. I would honestly only support for medical reasons .

   Besides that he’ll no ..
   Plastic surgery is just a band aid to mask
   Bigger issues.

7. In my experience this is a slippery slope. A few light procedures turned into major work. She’s now my ex wife. Unrecognizable and fully Histrionic. In my case it pointed to major insecurities and a focus on the external forces and influences. I was never behind it. I just was silent and did not give an opinion. It was her face and body. It was her soul that she ultimately destroyed. I supported her on her path. That’s all you can do. Society loaded the gun, she pulled the trigger. Very sad

8. The only time I could see myself supporting plastic surgery is if it was for an actual deformity and they were upfront about wanting it since the time I met them.

   Otherwise I believe it’s often a slippery slope. If they’re so insecure they need to surgically alter their totally normal body, where does it end? First a nose job, then they notice their butt is a bit flat, and their breasts are too small, etc. It’s just not the type of personality I want to deal with, and I’ve almost never seen plastic surgery I consider to be attractive.

9. Because I think it’s borderline nuts (like body dismorphia) to literally cut into yourself and adjust things just so you can be in accordance with societal expectations

10. I had a crush on a woman once. She was super cute and attractive. Then she got nose surgery or something and it totally killed my feelings for her. She looked like a totally different person and got quite ugly, in my opinion.

11. Because I like what she looks like and don’t want her harming herself with frivolous surgery that’s going to make her look worse to me and am instead concerned about her mental and emotional well-being for wanting to do such a thing to herself in the first place.

12. I’m no expert on plastic surgery but I’ve never seen somebody happy with themselves get plastic surgery. Like, unless it was some sort of reconstruction due to an injury or ailment, I’d kind of see it as a red flag. Also, *I’m* not going to imply she needs to do anything to change her body, so who exactly is she doing it for? Maybe I’m paranoid but that would definitely be in my head.

13. It’s enough I already think make-up is lying and manipulation, so why would I help her lie more?

    The only exception is if she needs the surgery due to dire health reasons.

14. I’ve seen two marriages end when the woman got a boob job. Anecdotal evidence I know, but to me it would be a sign that she’s done with the relationship and is looking for a new man.

15. Because it never looks good. The weird sex doll look everyone seems to achieve is frankly creepy AF

16. Depends on the procedure. Scar removal, post trauma repairs etc, there is no question I be supportive.

    Other procedures I would advise counselling first. I would hate to think of them self mutilating because they think I would like it.

17. Nope. Hard pass for life. Unless she got into an accident that disfigured her, cosmetic surgery is a sign of someone who is deeply insecure. It’s a very extreme symptom of a mental illness that I don’t want to be around to deal with.

18. Ae ain’t got the money for that shit. We barely can afford to pay our normal bills.

19. It depends. If I think she has self esteem problems and has gotten a lot of plastic surgery before – chasing after an ephemeral high of some unrealistic beauty expectation standards – then I wouldn’t support it. I would think she had a problem and I would encourage her to get some therapy.

    If she wanted to get some reasonable plastic surgery and it was affordable, sure.

20. I had this conversation with my ex when we were married. After nursing etc, she didn’t like her boobs anymore. I would have gone for a reduction because they caused her back a lot of problems, but I wasn’t on board for a lift. I never told her no outright, but tried to convince her how amazing she still looked. I wasn’t worried about the money, only about the risk.