i’m 26, never had relationships, not even a first kiss.
i dont like to date a man if i cant see a future with them and right now im a student and i cant know for sure where im going to live, it will depend in which field I’m gonna specialize after graduating… I don’t wanna love knowing that I’m gonna leave one day. And two, I had three unrequited crushes in my life and I didn’t feel anything for the guys that liked me.
I’m thinking that there is something really liberating in just giving up on marrying for love. it’s hard to find love and be loved and if you do have the luck to find the person that loves you they could not have the same mission as you, they could cheat one day, not find you attractive anymore, they could not want to adopt children which It is something I’d like because I don’t any pregnancy, and the emotional baggage can be so big it really makes me anxious, most of marriages are not happy ones. Also love can happen later in life and I won’t have the same energy to look after a kid as a 30 years old, that could add pressure to find someone that loves me soon! and a right man for me nevertheless !
So I’m thinking of just going to an agency that arrange couples in the future and tell them I want to marry without love. That could take a lot of burden off my shoulders, I won’t have to wait or chase and stress about not being wanted and losing my dream of having a son/daughter (I don’t wanna be a single mom)
What do you think of business marriages?
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As a happily married woman (30 years to the love of my life), my thought is, why not just stay single unless you happen to meet someone you want to marry?
Edit: This type of arrangement sounds likely to fail, particularly when one of you meets someone and falls in love.
Second edit: Since you want to adopt a kid, I will mention that as you get older and more established in your career, you will potentially have more money to make life a little easier and the potential for better work/life balance. Most of my friends started families in their 30s or 40s.
Personally I think being a single mum sounds easier than being married without love. Living with someone is hard enough even if you love them! 90% of the misunderstandings that happen between me and my husband are fixed by saying “I love you”. If I didn’t love him I think I would resent him, even though he’s incredible.
Bad idea. This sort of marriage brings only negatives. Far better to simply live your life the way you want it without adding another person into the mix. There is no requirement to marry. A spouse who doesn’t love you, care about you, or prioritize you is far more likely to be a source of abuse and misery rather than help.
Rich people have been doing this forever, and sometimes they still do it.
What makes it work when you’re rich is you almost never have to see the person if you don’t want to. You can keep separate houses, separate lives, have mistresses or have sex with the pool boy. Your personal assistant can communicate with your spouse’s personal assistant about any marriage matters that need attending and social events where you need to appear publicly as a married couple. It’s just a business arrangement.
Would that work for you? Perhaps if you plan on being very rich! If you’re talking about someone you live with, have sex with, and have to interact with very often, it’s much harder if it’s someone you don’t like and trust.