I’m seriously thinking trying tinder, but I’m so nervous that the moment I tell anyone that, they’ll leave. It makes me feel like a child, and I don’t know why anyone would put up with it. It’s at least for a legitimate reason, I have pretty bad anxiety and was driving for 4 wrecks. The last one just broke me, and I haven’t been able to recover
I know for a fact it’ll drive some people off (pun intended) , but is it reasonable of me to be afraid it would make everyone run away? How would you feel if someone you matched with said this? And if this isn’t so pathetic a state to be in that I’m automatically disqualified, then when and how do I say it? Do I need it up front, or just when the topic of me driving first comes up?
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I don’t know it depends, around here we don’t have public transportation so I’m not willing to meet a man who doesn’t drive because that means I will have to do all the driving and I don’t want to do that. If I lived in the city where there was a subway, ok.
I think it’s important to let people know that you choose not to drive otherwise they’re going to assume that you are an alcoholic with a DUI or that you have unpaid child support.
But I personally would not be willing to date someone who doesn’t drive simply because I don’t want to do it all all the time.
If it’s part of who you are, it doesn’t matter if it’s a deal breaker for others or not. If I was you I’d put it right in my profile. Sure you may get less matches, but you’ll get less people wasting time as well.
I dated a guy who didn’t have a car because he lived in a major city and didn’t need one. Only issue was… I lived right outside of said major city. Almost anything pertaining to my life or that I asked him to do, required him to have a car to get to or have me pick him up. It got really old, really quick.
I wouldn’t do it again. Yes, there is Uber. But it gets expensive.
I live in a large city with good public transport and a lot of people simply don’t have cars because it doesn’t make any sense. I’m getting my driver’s license only now, at 29 because before there was no need. And I don’t think I’ve ever heard it listed as a deal breaker. But it might be regional, and it might simply cause you issues if you live in a more rural area.
If you live in a city that has great transportation then I don’t think it’ll deter potential dates as long as you pay for your own way and maybe theirs.
Im 25yrs old and still dont have my license..i was always given excuses by my parents and whatnot..but after living in fl for 5yrs my anxiety levels have gotten crazy when it comes to sharing the road with the ppl down here. As much as i want to get it, its scary..and i 100% believe it could be an issue when it comes to dating. Although you could get lucky and find someone who wont mind too much