How have you dealt with the trauma caused by your father?

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1. Watching Dr. Phil and identifying with all the fucked up guests.

2. Trying to not be him

3. My father caused me trauma?🤨

4. I’ve heard stories about how often my pops got beat as a kid. I don’t blame him at all. He did the best he could after growing up with a dad like that, and all the shit I did as a kid. I didn’t deserve all of it but I get it, I have bigger problems to worry about anymore.

5. My father died when I was 7 so that’s not a type of trauma I’ve had

6. A shrink, some psychedelics, daily discipline. I faced the issues he wouldn’t face head on and became a better stronger healthier version of him.

   I have a son now and there’s no way I would have let him bear the weight of my unresolved issues.

7. Recognize that he doesn’t deserve to have this hold over my emotions. Then I let it go.

   Took me about 25 years to figure that out tho

8. Correction-Lack of father

9. Realized it wasn’t his fault. His life was significantly harder than mine, and he could have been a lot worse

10. Therapy. Building a life where I am happy. Trying to forgive.

11. (Foster father) replaced him with older mentors as I went through life, substituted an abusive bastard for father figures who I can turn to, and who want what’s best for me

12. i don’t even know what he looks like

    my mom is my dad

13. Call the cops on him

14. Distance

15. I am thankful that he is dead. I find comfort in his demise.

16. Pretty well, I think. I avoid alcohol and drugs like the plague, I am exceptionally respectful to my wife and kids, and keep my anger in check. It also came out somewhat in my writing.

17. i don’t think about it and don’t go back home as much as possible

18. By fucking his wife to assert dominance.

19. self loathing, anxiety, depression, and more self loathing. i’m in weekly therapy, but it’s not doing much. and to be fair, dad did a lot of things right, and his rage was far from my only issue.