So 4 days ago I (M24) asked my best friend (M30) if he wanted to hangout which is supposed to be today. This was originally his idea, as he said last week that we should grab drinks “sometime next week.” Tho when he said that, there was no assurance that it is really going to happen so I set the date and I invited him instead. He even said that he has lots of time to do it.
After 4 days of sending the message, he has no reply. Doesn’t even read it. He is always online. I’m being nervous to ask him for a follow up because last time I invited him, he cancelled last minute. That was just last month. He said he doesn’t feel well which I completely understand.
So should I send him another message again? Or should I just let this go and move on from him?
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If someone flakes a second time, that should be it. Don’t invite him again.
Yeah, time to move on. If you send out vibes like you are waiting by the phone, that turns ppl off. You have to venture out and find other things to do, by yourself or with other ppl. I think if you can enjoy hanging out with yourself, people will like the confidence and want to hang out with you. It’s completely backwards I know.
I know all these comments are telling you to “cut him off” and “move on” but I disagree. Friends are allowed mistakes, they’re allowed time out, they’re people too. If he has other friends, so be it, that is no reason to cut him out of your life. Just give him a little time and space and come back to it another day if you want to. Life is too short to chop people out left right and center because they do one small thing to upset you. He’s only human, just like you. And he’s your friend. Just give it some time and space and come back to it when you feel a little better.