So some pretext is that I’ve been dating my bf for a little over 3 months and we are long distance. Lately we’ve be arguing about the simplist things and idk what to do. He said that he doesn’t know if he wants to break up tho. We used to talk all the time but now we have both gotten busier and can’t as much. I love him and don’t want to break up though if he does I will let him go. What can I do to help get us back to the way we were?
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>What can I do to help get us back to the way we were?
That’s the thing about relationships.
Like time, they move in only direction: forward.
You probably cannot go back to the way things were before. You’ve both gotten busier, and obviously little things are bugging you both.
Maybe it has always been this way. Maybe you and he are not really compatible, and have just been trying to force it all this time.
Your only hope may be to fall back on why the two of you are together in the first place. If there really is nothing there, then your best bet is to stop pushing this rock back uphill and call it quits.
I would say all that can be done is talking openly with him about this, you should be able to reach some sort of a conclusion. I mean you shouldn’t dig why you should break up, but more like trying to find the root cause, why are you arguing, why do these small things draw into arguing. As I’ve talked to random tinder dates post breakup, I’ve found out that sometimes it’s not really about the issue at hand, that the small thing is just the small thing, but that in reality is something completely else and much bigger. Maybe it’s the fact, that you both have gotten busier and small things trigger one or both of you to thinking that something is fading or getting scared to lose each other, which sometimes leads by unconscious pushing away.
There are many things that could be causing this and just as many solutions, as long as both of you are open and willing to be vulnerable for each other, then there is nothing that can’t be solved together.