My husband is nervous to j/o in front me, how do I make him more comfortable?

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1. You could masturbate in front of him while he masturbates in front of you

2. What’s your current set up? You just in a chair and him on a bed? Could try using a CCTV like set up, hiding, peep hole etc.

3. Be patient. It took me a while to believe that my wife really found it hot. Don’t know why, but it did.

4. A long time ago, I was seeing a girl who told me that it was hot for her to watch a guy jerking himself. At first I thought it was weird, but, you know, Different strokes (ja ja).

   After a few times I kind of liked it.

   Maybe have him start, the you finish him. That could get him warm to the idea.

5. He is gonna be SUPER mindful as to your reactions. At the start of trying all this, If he’s doing this and your not taking it anywhere or looking bored, he might be wondering what’s going on for you, is she liking this or not? Try taking your clothes off as he keeps going, or blow him here and there and tell him to keep going, getting touchy with yoself

6. Start by giving him a handjob, and then grab his hand and say “help me out” and move it to his penis while you massage his balls and taint.

7. I think a great idea would be if he could video himself jerking off and send it to you. Or watch porn next to each other and masturbate

8. Start off doing it together. If he’s nervous, keep the bed sheets pulled up until he’s ready to show. After things hot and heavy he’ll be more likely to pull it out.

9. You could do it for him.

10. Turn him on, little foreplay, little touchey touchey. Then pretend to get tired and pretend to fall asleep. Then enjoy the show.

11. Positive reinforcement. Do it to yourself with him.

12. Lay together and watch some porn.

13. Do it together, give him a show

14. You could do mutual masturbation. Then he won’t feel like he’s in the spotlight for it, plus gets to watch you too if he’s into that.

15. Let him watch porn while he jerks off

16. You masturbate in front of him.

17. What about possibly not being there first couple times are instead have him make a video or FaceTime on mute. May give him a chance to get more comfortable with the idea of being watched first

18. Been married 23 years. This just happened for us in the last month. I’d wanted to but felt weird bringing it up.

19. You have to baby step it. Trying laying by his side while jacking him off, and tell him how arousing it is for you to see him get hard/spill pre-cum/shoot his load.

20. I love when my bf and I masturbate next to each other. We don’t have to make eye contact. We can just chill, maybe help out here and there. It does take a long time to be comfortable enough to do that sometimes though

21. Best tip I can think of: Don’t judge his cum face.

22. Lol you are exactly like my gf, and I am exactly like your man.

    I refuse to do that in front of her. So it’s never happened.

23. Masturbating in front of someone is incredibly intimate it almost feels more intimate than sex because that’s something you always do on your own.

    Maybe try mutual masturbation

24. Tease him by playing with yourself in front of him. Tell him, “We gonna cum together a little differently tonight.”

25. Try making out with him while you touch him, then move his hands there with yours and tell him you want him to make himself cum. The intense kissing will distract him from worrying, so he doesn’t feel the pressure of you watching him. Then pleasure yourself while he watches you. Once he’s comfortable with this…you can move to the next phase of watching eachother.

26. Maybe if you masturbate together it’s a good gateway to him being more comfortable with masturbating in front of you

27. I absolutely love watching my husband as well. It definitely turns me on to see him turned on

28. Get on your knees looking him straight in the eyes and stick your tongue out

29. My wife used to lie on her back with her legs wide and spread her pussy for me and tell me she wanted me to cum on her pussy. What she really wanted was me to give her a show and watch me jerk my cock and cum. Luckily for her I love jerking off to her, she is my favourite porn star.

30. You start him off with a handjob then get him to take over while you offer him something to aim at.

31. Try starting by giving him a hand job or blow job then move slightly away and tell him to keep himself hard while you pleasure yourself with a toy

32. Let it be. I would also want to watch my bf masturbating. My bf doesn’t feel comfortable with it so we don’t do it. End of story.

    You can tell him he doesn’t need to be ashamed and that if he ever wants to try it he can tell you and then you let him be. No need to push him into it

33. I can relate. Brought up strict Catholic and been told even before puberty that self pleasuring was shameful and having been caught by my ex doing the deed and being called a pervert. When my present partner asked me to j/o in front of her while she just watched, l felt very embarrassed although I did it for her.

    Fast forward a few years and I’m much less self conscious and we often masturbate together. Just be patient and tell him that you’re really into this and give him a little show to encourage him.

34. This is a hard one, I find this to be a huge turn on but so many men are not open to it. Let me know if you find anything that works!

35. …. If it was someone saying this about a woman… I think the comments would be very different.

36. Blindfold him so he doesn’t need to watch you watching him?

37. I j/o as she fingers my butt. This is after I give her oral. She loves to watch me j/o.