I’m (F) about to go on a third date with a guy. We haven’t kissed yet, but I do want to invite him over to my place after the date and see what happens.
I usually don’t have problem with this as the guys I’ve been with usually take the lead, but this particular guy is rather shy and this time I feel like I have to initiate it if I want this to happen lol.
I’m kinda shy too and never done this. Is there an invitation that I can say that isn’t too forward like “hey wanna have sex?” but flirty enough to intrigue him?
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maybe sex isn’t on the brain for him just yet, have you guys referenced sex in any way? In my opinion it’s much easier to go there once a conversation has been had.
Why don’t you just invite him over, or suggest to go to his place for a date night
Feel like the “do you want to come in/over” works, plus it isn’t pressure if you end up not doing it
You can invite him to watch movie at your place, when you are watching get a bit closer or touch him while laughing at or any such scene in a movie.
OR you can directly ask him to have sex at your places. What’s your age?
Start with a few small simple physical interactions like brushing your hand up his arm, or allowing your face to be close to his for a kiss. Casually guiding the conversation to a sexual/physical topic is not a bad idea either.
Just ask. If i were invited I’d happily oblige.
Invite him over to watch a movie, have a drink, meet your dog/cat, or just to hangout.
Swing your panty with one finger while looking at him in the eyes.
I understand you are shy, but sometimes being straightforward about what you want is the best policy. Communicate and be open about what you want.
If you aren’t good with words, maybe just start out with a kiss. Let it lean into making out, and after a little bit just slowly move your hand along his thighs. If he seems into it or doesn’t attempt to stop you, start caressing his nooodle and if he doesn’t stop you there, ask him if he would like to move to the bedroom or ask if he has protection to get a feel for if he’s DTF.
Don’t be afraid to take the initiative. Most guys find it super hot when a girl makes the first move. You got this!
After the date you say “would you like to come back to my place for a drink/a movie/anything?”
Then when you get back and are on your couch, just start sending signals and just casually touch him and he’ll eventually get the hint. Or you could just go for a kiss.
Your going to have initiate sex when you get up there cause from what we’re reading he’s not going to escalate. Just keep him smiling and engage in physical contact whether that’s holding hands or sitting side by side. One thing should lead to another.
Lean in and kiss him, or hug him, and then lean into his ear and say “You should come back to my place tonight”.
Simple and effective.
Ask him over to help you find your panties?
My wife says be bold and talk nasty.
Well if you have to ask his lost – communication is big
If you’re doing something that evening, ask him to pick you up/drive you to wherever your date is. After he drives you back to your place, invite him up to see it. A simple “do you want to come up…?” should do it. If he says no don’t freak out either, just say OK and then text him later to clarify why he didn’t want to come up. Either way I think it’s better to invite your date up to your place for the first time, just because if he isn’t expecting you to want to come home with him then he may not have done the housecleaning that’s been put off for a while but that he would like to be done before he invites you over.
If you are interested in having sex, please do not expect him to provide his own condoms for the first time. Unless the dude is getting hookups on the regular he probably won’t have them on hand, especially if you’re going to your place rather than his.
Just invite him over if the date goes well, ask him if he wants to chill and watch a movie or something
Just ask him if he wants to come to your place after the date. No need to overthink it, just keep it casual and it will work.
Invite him over for a movie, sit close to him on the couch and just snuggle up to him more and more as the movie plays and judge his reaction. If he puts his arm around you, you’re almost there. After the movie ends, just turn to him, look him in the eyes and just slowly start to inch your face closer to move in for a kiss. It sounds stupid to mention this but this is pretty accurate, in the movie “Hitch”, he tells Kevin James to go 90% of the way when going in for a kiss and let the girl go the rest of the 10%. Do that and see where it leads you. Don’t listen to the others in the comments who are saying “JUST TELL HIM YOU WANT TO FUCK”, those people have ZERO experience.
Good luck!