forgive me if this isn’t the appropriate sub – i’ll delete this from here if that’s the case.
i’m not trying to play into the “fatherless daughter” joke, but i truly think it might be the culprit of all this.
I’ll avoid going into too much detail, but i always find myself preferring older men as opposed to men my age. i’m in my early 20’s. i’ve never had a male figure to look up to, really, so i think in replacement of a reliable parental figure that shows maturity, intelligence, and overall just wisdom, i always wonder about those kind of things with older men in potential sexual/romantic relationships, and it gets bad. i’ve never had sex before, but i’ve had pretty unrealistic fantasies (like student/professor, for example) that really excite me and i don’t know why. i know this is kind of thinking is detrimental and can go wrong for me in so many ways, but i have no clue on how to work on it.
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You’re not the least bit unusual and it’s nothing to be ashamed about. In fact, it would be better for you to choose someone for your first time who knows what he’s doing and is mature enough to respect your feelings and value you as a person.
Be sure you choose someone you like and trust for your first relationship and good luck.
It’s perfectly normal. Majority of women prefer older men, especially on their twenties.
https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/dating-advice/younger-women-dating-older-men/
It’s fine if you prefer older men and go for it. Just be careful cause some people who are attracted to much younger people do it cause it’s easier to manipulate inexperienced people. Obviously not all are predators just keep an eye out for red flags.
And while student/teacher relationships might be a fantasy, don’t actually date/have sex with someone in a position of power towards you. It’s not healthy and could cause legal problems for them.