I (23f) had a crush on my friend (23m), things went well and we decided to give us a chance. But I thought it would be the right thing to tell him that I made love in my previous relationship. (I was his first girlfriend, he was a virgin). But when I told him, he rejected me. I thought that wouldn’t be a problem but he thought that it was wrong to make love before marriage, he won’t be able to love me because of that. I feel bad. What would you do in such situation? Is virginity important to you? Would you give up loving someone because he/she’s not a virgin?
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Dodged a bullet
If it’s his religious belief then you can’t really do anything about it because it happened. He’ll most likely look down on you in the relationship if you continue it, probs think you’re a slut or something in his head for a while until he matures up. That’s mainly the virgin talking in him
There’s nothing you can really do. He has his views on sex before marriage and you have yours. You’re just not compatible.
Nothing to do. I would be unlikely to date someone who was a virgin so I guess I understand the other side of the opinion
Most secular people in the U.S. and other Western countries won’t care. People in more traditional societies and religious people in the West may care. Find someone who you feel comfortable with. If they had to force themselves to accept you as you are, you wouldn’t be happy together anyway so perhaps it’s all for the better he let you go at an early stage instead of later when you had caught feelings for him.
It comes down to culture and religious views.
Most places in western countries don’t really care anymore unless very religious. Even then, it’s not as highly cared about.
Don’t take him having this view personal. That’s his view, so leave him be and go onto find another guy who doesn’t care. The majority won’t.