So my (20F) boyfriend (21M) and I have been together for nearly 11 months now. Our relationship is absolutely wonderful but like everyone we have to work things out occasionally. Specifically working on better communication from both of us. Anyway, his ex and him were together for pretty much 4 years and throughout that relationship his ex was an absolute wreck to be with. According to him and several other people from highschool she was literally an asshole and didn’t treat him well. Awhile back he told me that to try and get her to breakup with him he cheated on her with a close friends cousin and she still didn’t break up with him (did this because last time he tried to breakup with her she showed up to school with fresh wounds on her wrists) and I let that slide because I kinda understood having been with someone similar in the past.
Recently he told me that he had actually been cheating on not only that girlfriend but two other girls he dated in highschool. He was doing most of it on some app that I can’t remember the name of but having like 20+ conversations everyday sort of thing. He stopped using the app while with his last ex and made a promise to her and himself that he wouldn’t ever do it again. It’s been four years since then so want to think that he can change and he’s also never given me a reason not to trust him besides this.
He’s going to start therapy to start working through this and hopefully start gaining trust in others and himself. I haven’t broken up with him and I want to give him a chance to change even more than he already has since four years ago. Anyways, what would you do in this situation? What do you think abt this?
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Yeah that’s a huge red flag. I don’t think I would breakup yet as he was very young(still is) and people change a lot in that time. But I would keep my eyes open and would not invest to may feelings right now.