So I (25F) have had problems with achieving an orgasm most of my adult life. The tl;dr is that I was abused in my early teens & it affected how I viewed sex & pleasure for a long time.
I can recall one instance in early adulthood where (I think) I had a proper orgasm. I haven’t been able to replicate this though.
When I masturbate, I usually just stimulate my clit (clit + penetration almost feels like too much sometimes).
This is hard to explain, but I’ll try. When I stimulate my clit, I can get to a point where it feels really good… but I don’t know if it’s an orgasm. Basically if I tense the right way paired with clit stimulation it builds up into a ‘release’ that feels like a 3-4 intense clitoral throbs. I have the urge to stop at this point, continuing feels uncomfortable… but I’m also not satisfied at the same time. If I give myself a minute I can usually do this over again a couple consecutive times with similar results.
The thing is, I don’t think this is an orgasm. It doesn’t feel like the one I had a long time ago – it just feels like my clit throbbing very hard for a couple seconds. And it’s not satiating, which is frustrating.
So this begs the question – is this normal, or am I doing something wrong? A part of me feels like I’m relying on tensing to feel good… but when i try to relax my muscles nothing really happens/feels good.
I’m at a loss of what to do. Has anyone had a similar experience ?
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Orgasm have different symptoms on different people. Just try with several partner until you found the right one. And don’t stress yourself too much.
I’ve found that different types of stimulation result in different kinds of orgasms.
I’m a trans man on testosterone, and what you’ve described sounds VERY similar to what happens when I orgasm by just stimulating my dick (which is more like an enlarged clip than a cis dick). It pulses a few times, I feel an intense release, but it’s not the full-body, waves crashing, toes go numb orgasm that I love. It’s more like a… mechanical orgasm, if that makes sense.
In order to get those full-body orgasms that I used to get more often while my body ran on estrogen, I need internal AND external stimulation. Something on my g-spot and on my dick usually does the trick!
Side note, there are also anal orgasms that I experience, which also feel different than the other two I described! Some orgasms just have different kinds of results!
Many different types of orgasm and consider this.. it can be really fun to explore different touches and toys with yourself!