How soon do you have conversations about STDs?

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1. Before you sleep with them.

2. Before we have any sexual contact beyond kissing

3. Before sex.

4. If it looks like sex is on the cards then I bring it up. I need to know someone’s attitude towards condoms and STI testing.

5. Probably an unpopular opinion, but first date. If it’s going to be a deal breaker for either of you, it’s better to just disclose and not waste anyone’s time. This is especially true if sex isn’t going to be on the table until feelings are. Not disclosing an STD before someone starts to fall for you is both manipulative and cruel.

6. Before you have sex.

7. Before kissing. I don’t want cold sores.

8. As soon as sex is on the table. Sometimes that’s when texting before the first date, sometimes it while making out at the bar before you’re about to Uber home together, sometimes it’s a month after you started dating.

9. If sex is likely/inevitable. Before then.

10. When sex becomes an option.

11. Sorry to butt in like this, but in addition to the original question: How often do you get tested for STD’s? (Sorry if it’s a rude question to ask, but I am very curious)

12. First date.