Ok this is a weird one, and please ignore the age gap. I know there are issues with it, but I don’t want to confront them now and there wasn’t a point last night that I felt unsafe.
Two things:
1.) I’m a virgin. Given some serious head, been in relationships but never had penetrative sex.
2.) I’m fat. Not obscenely and I think my tits and ass compensate for it, but there is more “cushion” as they call it.
Alright, so last night I agree to meet up with this guy from tinder because I was bored and horny and didn’t want to be in my dorm all night. I head over there like 9, we watch a movie, move to the bedroom, and I try to suck his dick. It wasn’t that long, but it was so thick I struggled to even get it in my mouth. But it’s fine, he’s into it, and I’m starting to worry if it’s going to fit when he tries to fuck me.
It doesn’t.
But the stupid motherfucker can’t tell.
He’s on top, grinding it along the opening and up to my clit so for a minute I figure that’s what he wants to be doing because its hitting my clit and feels kinda good.
Then I realize he’s not. He thinks he’s fucking me.
To be fair, like I said earlier-there is more padding. I don’t understand how he thought his dick was fully submerged, but he was definitely peninsulaing it- friction on 3 sides. So idk. Weigh in on this
When he speeds up it starts to hurt a lot more. He’s ramming into everything, but where he should be. He can tell I’m pain so he asks a couple times and I tell him it’s not even in. Don’t know if he caught that but I ended up asking him to finger me for a minute (so he can find the goddamn hole) and I tried to move his fingers so they actually went in. I thought they were for maybe a second there but it didn’t last and he basically just rubbed the outside for a couple minutes. It’s not pleasurable and almost hurts more so I pull him back on top of me and try to guide it inside. I’m not particularly wet but I brought lube and used plenty.
Shit did not go in. I’m a virgin, nervous and it’s tight. I don’t think he noticed.
I was anxious, in pain, and had given up at this point so I let him finish, which was impressively quickly for someone that humped to completion. After he made these comments about being so happy we used protection and about how’s he was glad he pulled out and I didn’t want to embarrass him.
My question for the r/sex subreddit- am I still a virgin? I think so
I’d like to hangout again. He’s hot and easy but he didn’t even know he wasn’t fucking me??? I know a fat body is a little different but it can’t be rocket science.
3 comments
Never underestimate how thick headed a guy can be when he’s horny. I would say that what you engaged in counts as friottage so technically you’re still a virgin I guess if you specifically only count vaginal penetration. I would advocate for honest communication, but don’t act indignant. I would inform him in a way that makes him feel good about himself such as saying “no no you never actually got all the way in because your dick is so massive”. Communication is important before during and after sex
It’s your first time, why not look for someone who is firstly more caring, and secondly closer to your age?
No offense, this dude may be hot but he sounds like an ass, he barely noticed you were in pain and was so focused on himself he didn’t even put it in. Look for someone better, you can do better than this.
you were anxious an in pain. is this really someone who you want to lose your virginity to?
Virginity is a weird concept. It is implied that sex only happens between a male and a female, and therefore virginity is lost the first time a penis penetrates a vagina. But what about lesbians? they are clearly having sex, just without penetration. Would they be considered virgins?