I’ve gone on a couple of dates in my life that haven’t gone anywhere and now I’m 28 going on 29 basically having been single my whole life. I honestly really enjoy the freedom and don’t resent it like a lot of other people do but I’m curious about dating and want to try it. However I honestly don’t know what chemistry looks or feels like or how to create a good environment for dating like I have for being single. I want dating to be just as good, if not better than how I feel being single and every time I think about going on a date with someone I just don’t feel that excitement. How did you all feel excited about dating?
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Personally I really like women and I like making people laugh and feel well. That’s what keeps me going 🙂
Also I enjoy feeding my ego, so that also helps.
Perhaps you need to go to an endocrinologist and check your hormone levels. Not feeling sexual attraction for people is not normal. I don’t know how hormones work in women, but in men, you could have very low testosterone w which kills your libido and ability to get sexually aroused.
I think it differs people to people. You can ask a few people and they’ll give you a variety of different answers. It’s ok to be comfortable being single. Maybe you can try going back into the dating scene and lower your expectations of wanting to meet someone. It’s pretty cliché, but the more you don’t look the more it will happen.
I think that for me personally building a connection with someone starts as small as building genuine connection through conversation and understanding that person more. Maybe ask yourself what truly makes you happy and what you’d want in a partner.
I think you’ll be fine. Remember at the start you aren’t picking a mate, you aren’t declaring your love. You are just trying to have an interesting conversation with new people.