Hi, I’m pretty new to this so I’m not sure this is the right channel to post in, pleas let me know if it’s not. Anyways my (F21) problem is that me and my ex (M23) broke up and I’m trying to get over him but I don’t know if that’s right thing to do.
So long story short, we dated for about half a year and broke it up when I moved to another city (out of state). I thought I got over him but when I was back home for Christmas break we hung out and hooked up and it all felt so good, now I’m back at uni and it feels like we broke up again and I just sucks.
He wasn’t exactly the kind of I guy I imagine I would end up dating but it just feels so good to be with him and I can’t really/ don’t want imagine a future without him, I kinda told him that but I also said it’s no point in us being together since we won’t be able to live in the same place for at least 3 years. He says he don’t want to be with anyone else but that also don’t want to do long distance. Anyways, I haven’t heard a word from him since I left my home town a couple weeks ago and I can’t quite make out what that means. Like does he not give a damn or is he avoiding me because of what I told him?
So the question is, what do I do now? Just push thru and force myself to get over him or give in to my lust to reach out and let him know about my feeling?
TL;DR; me and my boyfriend broke up but I don’t know if that was the right decision.
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It seems to me like you’re saying “either we’re super serious despite it being long distance, or we don’t have anything to do with each other.”
But there’s a perfectly reasonable middle ground: you’re both young, single, and when you’re in the same city you enjoy each other’s company, and when you’re not you do what makes you each happy . You don’t need to rush to define things. You can just go with the flow.
I strongly suspect he *does not* want a long distance relationship and if that’s what you want, you’re probably not going to get it. The other question to ask yourself is if you’re someone who can enjoy someone’s company and be casual about it – not everyone is, and that’s okay. But you should be open to the possibility of being in the moment with him, it being fun and nice and … casual.