im reposting this because I left out some important details.
i know this is a little iffy and it’s a bit of a weird story. my dad had a work party at our house and he had me (M19) talk to some of his co-workers. one of his co-workers (M30) I talked to was extremely handsome and hilarious. i didnt think he was interested in guys because he’s had wives in the past, but he got my number and invited me to hang out at his house for a beer. then he confessed to me he was really attracted to me and i was his first guy, and we had the best sex ever and that was me loosing my virginity. the only problem is that he is kinda friends with my dad and is a co-worker, it feels inappropriate. since then we’ve given each other oral but never anything too far. i want to pursue not only a romantic relationship but continue to have a sexual one. we’ve gone on a few dates too, and I wanna have sex with him again. would that be wrong? i can try to hide it from my dad but he might find out given I’m still living with him and he’s pretty good friends with the co-worker.
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You’re an adult just be careful and mindful of the situation. Be casual if you all have to be in the same room together. Does your dad know about your sexuality?
Aaah: This is a wonderful question and thank you for sharing this situation.
Our morality is a deeply personal thing; you will have to navigate your understanding of what is correct and incorrect in your heart by considering and understanding. However, you are here asking for our opinions, so I’ll give you mine:
I firmly believe there is NOTHING wrong with this relationship. Nothing at all.
You are an adult. This relationship is consensual. It has been rewarding, and you want more. Your feelings of guilt are coming from the fact that your father doesn’t know, right? Or perhaps the fact that your father has a prior friendship with this man? That’s okay. THAT’S OKAY!
You can have a different relationship with this man and he can continue to have a friendship with your dad. This is what true intimacy is. We are human beings and we have feelings. We are sexual. You are okay and entitled to happiness. 🙂
You can decide whether or not to explain the situation to your dad. That will depend on his level of maturity… do you understand? He may not want to accept the truth. If he doesn’t please understand that he is not God and has no right to stop you.
Those are my two cents. Best wishes, beautiful!
Does the coworker know that you’re not out to your dad? What does he say about it? What assurances can he give you that he will be discrete?