I do not mean I’m scared to talk to her, as I can talk to girls as friends, but in 15 years I’ve never had a girlfriend or anything really close to having a relationship.
This last year I wanted to push myself out of my comfort zone and talk to more people, which led me to talk more to this girl from my church. We’ve known of each other for a couple years but never really interacted until 2022. We are in the same grade and I wasnt interested in her until she changed her hairstyle and i was like “good lawd”(which is when i started to talk to her, and noticed her personality).
Well I reallllly like her but I have no clue what to do about it. My social skills are not the best (actually quite abysmal) and hers arent either so how can 2 awkward people talk to each other?
We are going to the upcoming ball in a sort of big group with her siblings and mine, so technically with each other but not really. Im fairly certain shes interested and knows I am but I dont know what to do. I dont wanna fumble, and this is my first time in this kind of situationš
TLDR: Any tips for talking to 16F so that we can get to know each other better while not rushing and ruining the friendship?
(Im not in the friendzone rn hopefully)
Any advice is appreciatedš¤š¤š¤
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Oh awkward high school years how I donāt miss you.
In terms of how to ask her out, you just do it. Talk to her and ask if she would like to go out on a date with you (I personally would avoid doing it in a larger social setting to avoid any potential awkwardness to come from that). Thereās not an easier way to go about it.
DONāT DO IT OVER TEXT.
If you really canāt find a lot of alone time with her do it over the phone/FaceTime then.
In terms of the awkwardness Iām an awkward person too. Just make it not matter. I find Iām not awkward if Iām talking to someone that I know I can be myself with bc I donāt have to worry about whether or not they will listen to me.
So just be yourself and talk like you would with people close to you and thereāll be a connection that forms. Try to make her feel like she can do the same to you in return also. And if nothing comes of that sort of conversing then itās not really a good fit and not gonna work out. Thatās okay not everything works out. On to the next one then