Men in relationships – what about your SO makes you feel insecure?

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1. She’s aged so well.. If we separated, she’d have dudes lined up for her. I’d be alone

2. She makes me think that I want to much sex

3. Honestly? Nothing. I’ve been with her for seven years, married coming up three.

   From day zero, she was straight with me, told me what she wanted and I knew where things stood.

   I’ve never had a more positive relationship. I don’t trust easy and have defensive mechanisms (family issues) but I have never doubted her trust in me, fidelity, or even considered she would leave me.

   I feel secure and I trust her.

4. Nothing. She doesn’t impact how I feel about myself.

5. It’s way easier for her to find someone vs if I had to

6. Nothing? Why would I feel insecure?

7. She’s a really good cook and home maker. If we split, I’ll either spend all my money on eating out or live in a zero decorated house or both. That’ll go downhill real quick.

8. Not my SO but a past relationship. She was way more attractive than I was.

9. Feeling obligated to someone who doesn’t act equally obligated to me. Most insecurity comes from a lack of support…. Or the expectation of a lack of support.

10. Honestly, she’s a talented researcher for the big random shit in life. Car insurance, health insurance, buying a car, finding an oncologist, or chiropractor, reviewing colleges etc etc.

    I feel like an amateur

11. She’s my SO precisely bc she doesn’t make me feel anything but special.

    if yours doesn’t it might be time to re evaluate her role in your life.

12. She doesn’t understand that saying racist things against white people is really getting out of hand and that women who have gone full misandrist are trying to take over the megaphone with the #metoo movement.

    I’ve had comments directed at me for being both white and a man where I should be ashamed for who I am. She just dismisses it or says it is inconsequential. It still affects me though. I’m just supposed to take it because I can’t say anything.