I (m51) have always loved giving oral. GF (f46) loves giving as well.
I love finding ways to get her off ahead of me. The first couple months, I’d go down on her & ask for feedback on what turned her on. I don’t think I was ever able to fully get her off but she seemed to be having good time. But I’ve increasingly got the tap a few minutes in and switched to PIV at her request (not that I’m complaining). When asked, she said that it never did that much for her with prior lovers. She’ll occasionally get off with PIV alone but mostly needs to add a toy in. Fine with all.
How should I regard the tap? And should I bag oral going forward?
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I would not get offended but maybe ask why. Maybe she thinks you don’t enjoy it and only doing it out of obligation.
Also sometimes my partner asks me to stop and piv but usually because she just really wants piv in that moment.
Ah yes, the dreaded little tap.
Just means you’re not on the same page. If it’s happening often, you need to find out what you should be doing differently. If it’s not very often, shit happens.
It would ideally be clear by her demeanour whether she just is so aroused that she wants you to take her now with PIV or if she’s gotten bored and wants to do something else or some other, third option.
Since it isn’t, you’ll just have to bite the bullet and talk to her to find out what’s what as well as the answer to whether you should just stop or should plan to only do it for a little while as part of foreplay or what.
I’d just ask her. I can’t get off from oral so I get a little bored after a few minutes. It feels good, but I know I won’t get off from it and if he goes too long I get less sensitive which isn’t very fun.