Mens who have a distant/not good relationship with parent/relatives, how did your partner respond to it when you told them?

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1. they were clearly jealous.

2. Mine was very supportive after i told her the reasons why she understood and helped me out.

3. Most of them were supportive and never pressured me about fixing it, or whatever.

4. She asked if it bothered me, I laughed and said not in the slightest, she said cool…..we still going to eat?

5. For mine they were happy that I was trying to build the bridge. I didn’t feel any animosity towards them though, they’d just dealt with some stuff I was going through in an unhelpful way when I needed support.

6. I got dumped because I wouldn’t tell my parents about our relationship, even though I never talk to my parents anyway.

   I wasn’t embarrassed of them, I just dislike my parents.

7. Future wife said, “Gotcha beat. Did not talk to my Dad for 20 years.” So, not a problem.

8. She’s fine with the arrangement.

9. She keeps bringing it up and I am bloody sick of talking about it.

10. Mine didn’t get it and still really doesn’t 100% get it. At first she wanted to fix the relationship (pissed me off), then wanted to have a moderate relationship and act as a go between, then more recently figured out why I have minimal contact when my sister dropped the act and was more toxic around her too.

    (Sister who was abusive as a little kid, mostly to my parents more than anyone and is toxic af. Lots of yelling, screaming, not regular stuff wayyyy out of proportion. At one point she shoved my mom HARD onto the ground and I had to get between them. I think the force I used to shove her off my mom like it was nothing scared her and that’s the only reason why it didn’t escalate. She has mental health issues but like at one point I sort of snapped inside and decided I didn’t want to put myself through her shit anymore. Holidays only.)