Husband (39m) and I (35f) have been talking about divorce (amicably). We have been going to a therapist for a while now. The way things are looking, it seems we are heading for a separation. We have been married for 9 years, 13 years of knowing (12 together). We have a kid (6).
Recently I read my state allows legal separation (separation maintenance). And that could be an alternative to divorce. We are first generation immigrant and don’t have any immediate (or extended) family in the country. In case of an emergency, this would still help us to rely on each other (being able to take those critical decisions). This might also be a bit easier on our kid. We have lot of finances tied up together so might be easier in that regard. In case, either of us get serious about someone else, we’d initiate divorce.
I’d like to know if it works out for anyone? Is it even a sensible thing to consider?
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You might also ask over in /r/Divorce as well.
Definately ask a lawyer in your location. Legal seperation is generally not supposed to be a substitute for divorce. Its to protect both parties until the divorce is finalized because the divorce process can be so long.
If you’re sure your over as a couple just divorce. The separation is for when you’re deciding. The separation maintenance is so when spouse isn’t completely broke and homeless while everything gets sorted. The kid will be better if you divorce because separation implies there’s a chance you could get back together. If you want to get back in the dating world, no one will want to date a someone that is separated.