I’m a junior in college. I’ve never kissed a girl, never been in a relationship, probably never even had a girl I could call a friend. This is not a huge issue for me, but the problem is that IT IS a huge insecurity.
I’ve been working on myself for a couple years and I’ve improved in a lot of areas but I just hit a roadblock with women. It’s not that I can’t attract them, but when I feel like they’re attracted to me I push them away or straight up ignore them because I’m insecure about my lack of experience. Like if I’m at a club and a girl is starting to get close to me, I just leave away from her because I don’t want to have to kiss her without knowing how.
Any advice on how to get past this?
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You are not horny enough.
Yes.. couple things. You don’t have to kiss in clubs. In fact I recommend not doing it unless she really initiates it and she probably won’t. Second, it’s not that difficult. You’ll figure it out. Just put your lips on hers and pucker. If she opens her mouth and uses tongue don’t actually put your tongue in her mouth, it’s more like they are rubbing up against each other.
Now that you have the confidence to handle that you have to get to the stage where the woman wants to kiss. Just talk to them and don’t push them away.
I had an issue like this for a while. The answer is simple, but not one you probably wanna hear: just do what your insecurities are trying to steer you away from.
Yes, it might mean some awkward experiences at (whatever age you are), but you know what’ll be more awkward and painful? Being 10 years older and still rationalizing yourself out of it. You seriously gotta just be ok with sucking at socializing, sex, etc. for a while. How else are you gonna learn?