I worked with a girl for 3 years. In august of this past year we began to talk more and she persued me as she showed a lot fo interest. We started seeing each other and it was great.
We spent every weekend at her place and I would go over even some week nights. Soon after, she was fired from the business for non-related reasons.
She has been home doing nothing ever since.
Fast forward to today, we are even closer and have talked about being “together” and not talking to other people but not dating.
She was arguing with her sister and got annoyed so she walked out of the house, her sister had enough of the bs and told me that the girl I am seeing saw her ex and another guy too.
Instantly got the chills and sat there in disbelief but she wouldn’t lie to me as we are close since I have been so good to this girl for the time we have been together.
I tell the girl and she says it true but doesn’t want to talk in the house since the sister was still around, she didn’t want to get into a fight so we go to my car and talk for 3 hours.
She tells me she hooked up with her ex once (supposedly) and made out with another guy for just no reason who no longer lives in the state. She tries to play the card that we are not dating so she was single to do this but I literally have met her friends and been introduced as her boyfriend, I am doing everything for her, driving her around, helping her pay for groceries, everything.
I just don’t know where to go with this, she claims that’s everything and there’s nothing else shes hiding. I kinda believe her, I do genuinely take up most of her time but since shes home during the week there’s always a few days I cant see her.
She cried to me of course and said she wants us to work out and will stop seeing her ex and it was just a one time mess up that wasn’t supposed to happen, but I have been played before and really don’t want to feel like that again. Worst part is she kept trying to justify it and realized that and just said shes self destructive and seemed to not really want to put up a fight anymore about it.
Has anyone else tried to work it out after finding out something like this after the relationship is somewhat serious?
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I am a its not exclusive till we both say it is kinda guy. So I would give her a pass, and say no more. Though if she did it again she would be out.
You probably have to take what her aggrieved sister says with a grain of salt. But this person got fired and isn’t isn’t even trying to find a new job, so you’ll always have to wonder about her character and how seriously she takes basic societal expectations.
>She tries to play the card that we are not dating so she was single to do this but I literally have met her friends and been introduced as her boyfriend
Yeah, that’s a statement of intent.
“she wants us to work out and will stop seeing her ex”
What? Why are you still there? Distance yourself from this.
This is someone that has got fired from her job, had her OWN sister shop her to YOU… and you’re still here.
Dude, find someone nice. I’ve had similar and it doesn’t end well. Cut the heart strings off now because you’ll just get hooked on someone that is so much bad news that even their own sister stepped in.