I have been with my girlfriend for a year now.
On our first date we got on the topic of orgasms, I mentioned “Some are easier than others, but some women have a very hard time cumming.” She was very eager to share with me that out of 23 partners, none had figured her out or taken the time to. Sounds like Charlie’s golden ticket, right?
Wrong.
I’ve always been incredibly advocative of the female orgasm, my success rate at that point had to be ~90%. A great deal of my confidence in bed comes from that. I love this girl and I need to figure this out because she needs someone who knows how and sex is unfulfilling at this point.
She’s a bit unconventional. When I’m working she will often tell me to switch it up during oral (inconsistent=bad), she NEEDS consistent and increasingly creative dirty talk (makes it hard to focus on what’s in front of me), vibrators+piv+anal do nothing, it takes her 40 mins to make herself cum (regularly unsuccessful/difficult), and our communication is great.
I could list forever what we’ve tried, but I need suggestions better than a quick Google search. Has anyone been here who found the key or is the answer time and practice? She’s v happy with sex but getting sexually frustrated in a lifelong sense.
Tldr; I don’t know how to make my gf cum. It’s never been this hard.