So I (24m) asked out this girl (20) form work who recently ended her internship there and I decided to ask her out to go somewhere I thought she would find really cool and she said yes. I enjoyed working with her and chatting with her when it wasn’t too busy and I came to find out that we have some things in common interest-wise but I didn’t feel any right-away spark (which is fine I guess). I would say that on an interest scale of 1-10 I’m at a 6. So fast forward couple of days I try to make definite plans with her over text and she takes forever to reply (I don’t double text or anything). Now she’s asking “just to be sure this is platonic right?”. Now I’m not sure if I even like her because I’ve only met her in a work environment up until this point. Should I say no to the friendship thing and tell her that my intention was to see where it can go romantic-wise?
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This is our ego talking. She tells you she’s not interested and all of a sudden you don’t like her anymore? Hell of a coincidence. I’m also lost as to why so many dudes wanna date girls they wouldn’t wanna be friends with but I digress. (And if you’re no longer interested, why does it matter how you respond to this?)
Tell her you want to date her and see what she says.
Your call….it’s entirely okay if you just blow it off. I probably would. It doesn’t seem like either of you is totally into it.
Whether you accept the platonic thing or not, I wouldn’t lie. Your interest was romantic. You asked her on a date and she turned you down. You will gain self respect and the respect of others is you are forthright and take rejection like a mature adult.