Just the title, find myself doing it a lot especially with matters of dating. Get caught in a downward spiral even when I recognize I’m doing I stop for a moment then circle back to the same thoughts.
Recently after a third date that was simultaneously really great and bad the other person is a bit distant. Not ghosting or avoiding but a noticeable down turn in responsiveness, maybe enthusiasm too? I have been giving them distance as I’m interpreting that’s what they want. But am I wrong or just overthinking?
I just can’t tell if I’m just being insecure or they’re looking to have a bit of distance or I shouldn’t be getting my hopes up.
What can I do to keep from doing this?
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Trust your intuition, if you feel like they’ve become less responsive, and lack that excitement to be replying to you, then generally that is to be true, however, overthinking can make it come across as worse, and sometimes we do think somethings changed when it hasn’t due to our insecurities, so you’d need to look at the context of the messages, but, overall, I’d give the distance. This will give them the space they want and allow you to relax a bit.