So I’ve been dating a guy for 2 and a half months now (met on bumble) we’ve had 5 dates and the 6th is coming up.
We haven’t made anything official yet, though it’s clear that we like eachother. From early on though we said we would be exclusively dating eachother.
Now our next date is coming up and we were texting and he said he wanted to talk about the ‘expectations in a possible relationship’ and ‘what he can expect from it and what I expect’.
He’s a really sweet caring guy and I really like him but somehow this feels waayyyy to serious way to soon? Am I overreacting? I think part of me is scared he’ll stop dating me if my ‘expectations’ are not to his liking, but honestly I’m more of a ‘it’s fun and we’ll see where it goes’ kind of person so idk how to deal with this. Other than this slowly progressing I don’t know how to answer that question since I’ve I also never been in a real longterm relationship (only situationships) yet so I also don’t know if this is a normal thing to ask this early in the dating process or not. Any advice so I can stop overthinking?
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it sounds like he wants to be official with you and wants to see if you’re both on the same page about the things that matter
if you think things are going too fast, bring that up during your talk
what’s too serious too soon is different for everyone. i’ve known my boyfriend a little over a month but we’re official and for us it’s not too soon for that yet but for others it could be too much too soon
don’t ask other people if things are going too fast. ask yourself if things are going too fast – and talk to him and be open and honest