So, I (21F) am in a sort of relationship with a guy (22M). We’re not dating officially, although he hints that he wants to marry me. The sex life is great, and also we share all of our interests and values. However, I don’t know if he treats me well enough.
For example, when I tell him something funny that happened to me, he often doesn’t say anything in response. When I tell him about a hobby I’m passionate about, he makes a joke, instead of supporting me. And he’s not the type of guy to send cute good morning messages and all that.
I know it might be his way of dealing with things, he’s not really a “discuss your emotions” type of guy and he has shown me that he cares for me. But still, it hurts.
What troubles me the most is when we have arguments. He instantly ignores me and says that it’s better if we continue talking next day. I don’t handle that well because I often get really upset and anxious during arguments, and it’s no good for my anxiety to wait until another day to sort it out. Once we were in a specially bad argument, he called me a psycho and ignored me for over a week. He then texted me, but never apologised.
I wonder, does all of that show that he’s a dick or is it just his way of dealing with things? I’m not claiming to be a saint either, but I try to always be supportive of him.
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The psycho comments probably aren’t needed, but we’re also only hearing one side of it, as you said yourself you’re no saint. I don’t think good morning text are necessary. And maybe your jokes aren’t funny to him? You two may just be incompatible, Not that he’s not treating you well. Which is fine, if you’re not feeling it, then that’s it?