I’m confused. We’ve been married for 31 years and he recently tells me he wants to bring in another man to ” please me” he wants him and myself to be intimate and have sex while he watches and joins in. I’ve never been with another man and that’s one of the reasons he wants me to experience this. He said he wants me to know what it feels like to have sex with another man. While this turns me on, it also scares me. At first I thought it was me not being enough for him, but I really think he just wants to make me happy and have an experience most women will never have the opportunity to. Any thoughts on this ? Pros cons ?
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This is something to be discussed with a relationship or sex therapist. Not a bunch of random people on Reddit.
Not trying to be rude. Just certain topics are better to be handled by licensed professionals vs us.
That’s a situation that is better left a fantasy for most couples. It requires a lot of openness, honesty and full disclosure between the couple. You both have to agree that’s something you’re both into first. If either of you is unsure in any way, leave it a fantasy.
The reality is far short of expectations more often than not. You both need to talk about it if you both think it’s something you want to do and I mean every aspect of what’s involved.
Finding the third party is another huge hurdle. There are so many fakes, flakes and assholes out there. Discretion? lol That’s another big issue. Do you have kids? Family? Co-workers? What if any of them find out? Are you ok with that? There’s so much to consider.