2 year partnership, healthy relationship & sex life – but my partner (who is the female) prefers being in control… AKA her being on top, her vocalizing what tempo she wants, non hard pounding.
99% of the time, I’m totally fine with it – I love her riding me and I can just relax while she does the work. But sometimes, I want to be the one in control – however, that means her losing enjoyment.
It’s also a bit confusing because while she wants to be in control, she also does like being choked, some spitting in mouth, other signs of being dominated – interesting juxtaposition, eh?
I’m all for fairness (ofc), and I LOVE getting her off (which 99.9% of the time is via her riding) – I’d love to hear some opinions on why it is that this “control” exists, and if that’s “normal” ?
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Well, you could have it both ways. My partner enjoys riding me. It’s the only position that gets her off sooo good. And it’s great for me coz it’s not the position i usually cum in. So, we take turns… she rides me till she have had all her fun then it’s my turn to roll… and my best position is prone. We always end up happy.
Well you cant just always put her pleasure at the expense of your own. Thats extremely one sided and unhealthy. Its okey to voice your needs to your partner and have her meet them.