I (22M) have been with my gf (22F) for 5 years now. We had our ups and downs during this time but since last year everything is going amazing. Problem is that I can’t stop fantasizing about cheating on her.
I want to experiment but also I don’t want to lose her (I would never do anything because I know I can’t do both). In the past (during the ups and downs) we discussed the topic but it didn’t work.
When I masturbate I think about having a secret affair and it really worries me. I would never do that but the fact that I can’t stop thinking about it really worries me.
What I seek is to have a “new sex life” and find new people/interactions. Also, there’s a part of me that I don’t want to show to my gf. A perverted side. This leads me to have conversations with other people (including girls) about those sexual topics. I feel SUPER guilty for doing this and it’s something it is really suffocating me.
This is more like a vent because I don’t think there’s anything I can do
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Have you been with any other people? It’s completely understandable to be interested in playing the field when you’re 22 and have been with someone since 17.
You need to do some self-evaluation and see if this is something you want to pursue either by having a discussion about opening your relationship or by splitting up.
Or maybe you could do some roleplay where you talk to your GF and at certain times you can text/sext/whatever with her but have her pretending to be someone else. Maybe that’ll help scratch that itch.
>Also, there’s a part of me that I don’t want to show to my gf. A perverted side.
Why don’t you want to show you girlfriend this side of you?
Sounds like you are sexually unsatisfied in the relationship, so might be time to be a bit more open about what you like sexually and try it with your girlfriend, if you start getting the sex you want from your girlfriend you might stop fantasising about cheating.